By Susie Cortright
If there is one story my kids love to hear again and again, it is
the story of their birth. But they are interested in more than the
birth statistics. They want to know how I felt. They want to know
how much their new presence in the world meant to me.
The most meaningful baby albums, scrapbooks, and journals go beyond
the details of birth weight and time of day to capture the true
emotion behind the birth.
Here are some questions to help you remember the details, whether
it was yesterday or years ago.
When responding to each of these journaling prompts, do not do so
directly on the pages of your scrapbook. Write the answers in a
journal or even a piece of scrap paper first, and make sure to keep
your pen moving across the page. If you get stuck, write "I
remember" and then write the first thing that comes to mind.
Try not to think too hard about what you are writing. Just try to
just keep that pen moving, and do not cross out anything. You will
edit your journaling later and choose which details to include on
your scrapbook pages. The most powerful words and emotions often
are not the first to flow from your mind.
Sit with these questions and journal your way to poignant memories
and the most sentimental of scrapbooks.
What do you remember about your surroundings at the time of the
birth? What was the temperature like? The lighting? Detail the
sights and sounds. What small, specific details can you recall that
really bring the memories home? For me, it was the cherry Popsicle
the nurse wanted me to eat and the coffee my husband was drinking,
the smell of which made me so nauseous that my nurse made him take
it a trashcan clear down the hallway. What was it for you?
What about the process of childbirth did you find surprising? (I
know, the answer is "everything!" but try to find some specifics).
You will notice that the more specific the memories you recall, the
more poignant they will be to those who shared the experience with
you.
Describe the feeling when your baby was first placed in your arms.
Think about the experience in terms of a snapshot. Imagine someone
had taken a photo, just then. Describe the photo. What one or two
details most stick in your mind about the experience?
Who were your first visitors?
What was your first meal after childbirth?
What was it like to feed your baby for the first time? Make a
mental snapshot of those first feedings and describe it in as much
detail as you can.
What are your memories of your spouse or partner? What feelings
washed over you when you were together with the baby for the first
time?
Were there any feelings of fear? If so, what were you frightened
of?
What advice would you now have for mothers to be?
Reflect on how you told distant family members about the birth.
Recall how you felt upon seeing the other members of your family.
In what special way did they each bond with the baby?
Describe the tiny hands and feet of your baby.
Which baby gifts were particularly meaningful? Why?
How did your pets respond to the new baby?
What was the first song you sang to your baby?
Tell the story of bringing the baby home from the hospital. What
was the first thing you remember doing?
Do you remember when you were first all alone with your new baby,
in your home? Describe how you felt.
What values do you most wish to pass on to your new baby?
What dreams do you have for him or her?
What traditions would you like to instill, to mark the occasion of
this birth each year? Maybe you will write your child a heartfelt
letter each year on this day, or take a photo of your child wearing
the same outfit. A daughter may wear your wedding dress; a son may
wear the high school letter jacket of his father.
In what way are you proud of yourself, as a new mother?
How did the instance of becoming a mother change you? How did your
worldview change upon becoming a mother?
How did your relationship with your own mother change? Was there a
shift in perspective?
Using the above questions as a guide, try to open up and go beyond
the surface of the moment. Writing about the birth experience will
help you tap the true bliss of this birth. For many of us, this is
the most life changing moment that we will undergo. Make it last
for generations.
Susie Cortright is the founder of Momscape.com,
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