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It is one thing to fear that the person you hire is not going to
care for your child properly and is put in the face of danger, but
it is quite another thing to fear that the person who is coming
into your home might have a criminal past.
Reference checks will say many things about a prospective nanny or
housekeeper. For example, a former boss might tell you that the
nanny was excellent with children, reliable, responsible and
hardworking. Then you might go down the list and find that one of
the references states that the same nanny was late all the time and
this presented a problem. However, what if none of the references
say anything about one's shady past because none of them knew of
any criminal activity? You would then think that most likely with a
good criminal and reference background check that you are 99% safe
with your candidate.
Consider this - there is always the possibility that a crime might
have existed without being discovered. Here is the best way to do a
criminal check.
First do a social security trace that will give you what is called
a "mega history" on the person. This will outline all counties in
the last 7 years where a person has lived. From this list you can
narrow your search using the candidate's date of birth and social
security number checking all the counties that are listed on the
trace. If the candidate has many names, then you must do the trace
on all of them, using the sequence of names as listed on the
driver's license and social security card.
The real dilemma lies if you discover a criminal record on someone
who is working out beautifully with the children and appears to be
a good employee? What do you do? Do you give her the benefit of the
doubt? Do you keep someone in your home that you like because you
are willing to give this person a chance? Would you forgive the
crime and believe that people can change and never return to those
dark days? Or, do you immediately throw the person out and feel
relieved that nothing bad happened in your home during the short
time she was there?
There are many criminals today that wander our streets after doing
the time required to pay for their wrongdoings. Many cannot
possibly assimilate into society because so few are willing to give
them a chance. It might be easier to let a former felon into other
settings before letting him/her into your home with your children.
The truth is that it would be extremely difficult to not think
constantly about the former crime and worry about the possibility
that the person would do it again.
We might be forgiving in many ways to others who hurt us or do us
wrong, but we are not so obliging when it comes to a former felon
working in our home as a nanny or housekeeper.
In all of this, there is one more scenario to ponder. You might
hire a nanny or housekeeper who has no criminal background, a
fabulous set of working references, a clean driving record and what
appears to be a "perfect" nanny or housekeeper. Then after five
long wonderful years working together closely with your family
members and in your home, this same person decides that she is
desperate and finds herself wanting things that do not belong to
her or that she cannot obtain on her own. She begins her criminal
career right there in your home and you are completely oblivious to
it until one day the truth is known.
This very thing just happened to someone very close to me (my
mother) and needless to say, she was devastated.
We can never be sure about anyone. People may have a brief or even
extensive criminal past and end up turning completely around for
the better. Others might never have any criminal past and end up
doing something completely out of character due to desperation,
envy and greed. Whenever you have someone in your home, it is a
risk you take. Whenever you hand your children over to another
person, you are taking a risk. You can run all the criminal
background checks you want on anyone, but the truth remains that
you can never be too sure about anyone. It is a wonderful feeling
to be a trusting soul, but we must always keep one eye fully open
and stay vigilant at all times - no matter who it is that enters
our lives.
Marta Perrone, author "Help! How to Find Hire Train and Maintain
Household Help!"
Free report: "Top 10 Mistakes Household Employers Make When
Recruiting Help.
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